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Martin Luther King, Jr.

U.S. civil rights activist

King: "[Let us create a] society that will help men rise from the dark depths of prejudice and racism to the majestic heights of understanding and brotherhood."

King: "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

King: "The time is always right to do what is right."

King: "We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly."

Rosa Parks: "[King] was the type of person that people really gravitated towards and they seemed to like him personally, as well as his leadership."

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Nelson Mandela

President of South Africa and civil rights activist

Mandela: "Let it never be said by future generations that indifference, cynicism or selfishness made us fail to live up to [our] ideals."

Mandela: "Let the strivings of us all prove Martin Luther King Jr. ... correct, when he said that humanity can no longer be tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism."

Mandela: "[Let] us all [struggle to] prove that ... genuine brotherhood and peace [is] more precious than diamonds or silver or gold."

Mandela: "During my lifetime I have dedicated myself to [the] struggle [for a] society in which all persons will live together in harmony."

Mandela: "Yasser Arafat was one of the outstanding freedom fighters of this generation."

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Johann von Goethe

Author and multi-field genius, mentor of Schiller

Goethe: "It [is] natural to me to empathize with the condition of others [and to] sympathize with it with pleasure."

Goethe: "If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming."

[On why he broke with Schopenhauer:]
Goethe: "We discussed a good many things in agreement; eventually, however, a certain separation proved unavoidable, as when two friends, having walked so far, shake hands, one wanting to go north and the other south, and very soon lose sight of one another."

[On seeing the Nazis rise to power:]
Sigmund Freud: "Ah well - a nation that produced Goethe can't be all bad."

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Erasmus of Rotterdam

Renaissance humanist

Erasmus: "The truth is often lost while quarreling and is discovered with greater certainty without it."

Dirk H. Kelder: "[Erasmus sought] to reconcile all viewpoints. He detested war and violence of any sort ... owing to his sensitive disposition."

Gary Remer: "Like Cicero, Erasmus [believes] that truth is furthered by a more harmonious relationship between interlocutors."

Charles Cortright: "Erasmus' mode of dealing with ... controversy [was that] he would defend the man, but not judge his cause."

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Ronald Reagan

U.S. President (R)

Reagan: "You and I are told increasingly that we have to choose between a left or right, but ... there is no such thing. ... There is only an up or down - up to a man's age-old dream, the ultimate in individual freedom consistent with law and order - or down to the ant heap totalitarianism."

Kelley L. Ross: "Reagan could ... articulate the simple truths he believed, and a hostile press, mortified that he could speak right through their filter [and directly to the] people, grudgingly began to call him the 'Great Communicator.'"

Steven J. Rubenzer: "Despite his friendly exterior, Reagan was 'emotionally shy' [and] used his charm to keep people at a distance."

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Mikhail Gorbachev

Head of State of the Soviet Union

Gorbachev: "Peace means an ascent ... to cooperation and common creativity among nations. ... Never before has the idea that peace is indivisible been so true as it is now."

Gorbachev: "I am one of those people whom nature has given ... 'leadership qualities.' ... My friends [always] trusted me."

Gorbachev: "[We must] think and act in life [so as] to rouse people to ... have faith in themselves."

Gorbachev: "Idealists make the world go 'round, since everything starts with ideas. Yes, ideas! Everything comes from them and everything begins there."

Richard Reeves: "[When Gorbachev entered the world stage, newspaper] editors agreed that the rhetorician was charming and laughed easily, like Reagan."

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John Paul II

Pope

John Paul II: "I hope to have communion with the people, that is the most important thing."

John Paul II: "Science develops best when its concepts and conclusions are integrated into the broader human culture and its concerns for ultimate meaning and value."

John Paul II: "Scientists [should also devote themselves to the] issues dealt with by ... theologians. By [doing so] they can help others realize more fully the human potentialities of their discoveries."

John Paul II: "Science can purify religion from error and superstition. Religion can purify science from idolatry and false absolutes. Each can draw the other into a wider world, a world in which both can flourish."

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Vaclav Havel

President of the Czech Republic and playwright

Havel: "[We should all] desire to contribute to the happiness of the community."

Havel: "It would not be sensible always to say everything bluntly. ... What is needed [is] tact, instinct and good taste."

Havel: "The truth is not simply what you think it is; it is also the circumstances in which it is said, and to whom, why, and how it is said."

Havel: "The most important thing is not to lose sight of personal relationships."

Hillary Clinton: "[Havel was] eloquent ... and utterly charming. I found him enormously compelling."

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Pericles

Greek statesman - "First Citizen of Athens," adoptive father of Alcibiades

Pericles: "What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others."

Pericles: "We do not say that a man who takes no interest in [others] is a man who minds his own business: We say that he has no business here at all."

Pericles: "A man who has the knowledge but lacks the power to express it clearly is no better off than if he never had any ideas at all."

Friedrich Nietzsche: "Pericles, through persuasion, [could] always sway the onlookers to his course."

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Cicero

Roman statesman

Cicero: "There is nothing in which I habitually find greater satisfaction than in the consciousness of serving my friends."

Cicero: "We are not born for ourselves alone."

Cicero: "A friend is a second self."

Cicero: "[Feeling] sensitivity of disposition [is the sign] of a good heart."

Cicero: "In anger nothing judicious can be done."

Plutarch: "He had the name of being not only the best orator, but also the best poet of Rome."

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Joe Biden

U.S. Vice President (D) to Barack Obama

Biden: "[A fundamental] part of being a public servant [is] absorbing the anger of people who don't know where to turn."

Biden: "One of the things I've never been accused of is not caring about people."

Biden: "I have found that [with] most people, candor generates trust. ... [This approach] has always worked for me."

Biden: "[Obama and I] kind of balance each other. ... [I am someone who will] hug [and] touch [people] ... whereas he is not emotive that way. That's why we make such a good team."

Bob Woodward: "Around the White House, Biden was known as 'the [Republican] whisperer': The person who knew the right combination of sympathy and gentleness - never force - needed to work with the minority."

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Tony Blair

U.K. Prime Minister

Blair: "[With Africa] I fear the judgment of future generations. ... I feel that judgment of the future alongside the now. It gives me urgency. It fills me with determination."

Blair: "Both Princess Diana and I were, in our ways, manipulative people, perceiving quickly the emotions of others and able instinctively to play with them, all in the cause, of course, of the greater good."

Blair: "[Gordon Brown is] a strange guy. Political calculation yes. Political feelings, no. Analytical intelligence, absolutely. Emotional intelligence, zero."

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Matthieu Ricard

Buddhist monk and author of 'Happiness'

Ricard: "The point [of my work] is to ... make [you] more peaceful, more altruistic, and more emotionally balanced."

[Asked why he gave up his career in in molecular genetics:]
Ricard: "Science, however interesting, wasn't enough to give meaning to my life. ... I came to see research ... as an endless dispersion into detail."

Ricard: "[In my work] I was inspired through my readings of great figures like Martin Luther King Jr. and Mohandas Gandhi, who by the sheer strength of their human qualities were able to inspire others to change their way of being."

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Alfred Adler

Psychologist, student of Freud

Adler: "Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations."

Adler: "What the world chiefly wants ... is community feeling."

Adler: "It is [out of my] feeling of solidarity with others that my understanding of the need for [human] cooperation arose."

Edward Hoffman: "Adler [was] outgoing, buoyant and tactful. When potential arguments arose ... he strove to avoid confrontation and instead diplomatically sought to defuse tensions."

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Carl Rogers

Psychologist

Rogers: "[In my work] if I can create the proper climate, the proper relationship, and the proper conditions, a process of therapeutic movement will almost inevitably occur."

Rogers: "People are just as wonderful as sunsets. ... When I look at a sunset, I don't find myself saying, 'Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner.' ... I don't try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds."

Rogers: "There is ... within the therapist, a profound experience of the underlying commonality - [the] brotherhood of man."

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Erich Fromm

Psychologist and author of 'The Art of Loving'

Fromm: "All men are in need of help and depend on one another. Human solidarity is the necessary condition for the unfolding of any one individual."

Fromm: "Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says: 'I need you because I love you.'"

Irvin D. Yalom: "When teaching students about empathy, Erich Fromm often cited Terence's statement from 2000 years ago: 'I am human and let nothing human be alien to me.'"

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Neil deGrasse Tyson

Astrophysicist and science popularizer

Tyson: "[We should] not only teach people what science is and what it does, but also why it should mean something to them, and why it matters to society and everything that we hold dear."

Tyson: "When [scientists do something like going] to the moon, everybody knows about it. And everybody becomes a participant in some way. [If not as] an actual participant [then as] an emotional participant, because they embrace the idea."

Tyson: "[By promoting science] you stimulate an entire generation of people [to make] innovations [that will transform] the world and [that will make] tomorrow come."

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Michael Moore

Filmmaker

Moore: "[With my films] I want you to leave the theatre angry, and feeling like you'd better do something. I am pushing your citizen button."

Moore: "As tough as times still are, I hope you can join me today in giving thanks that our country seems to have turned a corner - away from politicians who win with hate and fear, and toward a future where we can be the best of who we are."

Moore: "I knew that [those who predicted that no one would see my films] would be wrong because ... I have a sense of where people are in the country."

Moore: "[I have] a strong moral sense of social responsibility."

Moore: "What's great about [films] is the communal experience of sitting in the dark with strangers and viewing something that's going to engage us."

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Sheryl Sandberg

Executive at Facebook

Sandberg: "I wish I could just go tell all the young women I work with, all these fabulous women, 'Believe in yourself. ... Own your own success!' I wish I could tell that to my daughter. But [fixing our problems is] not that simple."

Sandberg: "Until women are as ambitious as men, they're not going to achieve as much as men."

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Oprah Winfrey

Talk show host

Oprah: "You create your own reality by the way you think and therefore act. You cannot blame apartheid, your parents, your circumstances, because you are not your circumstances. You are your possibilities."

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Charlie Rose

Talk show host

Rose: "[In my work] I wanted viewers to feel like they were eavesdropping on [an intimate] conversation each night."

Hank Paulson: "He can lure you and hit you right between the eyes - hard questions in a soft way."

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Morgan Freeman

Actor

Freeman: "There is no black history. Black history is American history. ... Dr. Martin Luther King is not a black hero. He is an American hero. The world needs his message today more than ever before."

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Denzel Washington

Actor

Washington: "I'm a believer in positive words. You can create your reality."

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Reese Witherspoon

Actress

Witherspoon: "I've worked so hard to create characters that have dignity. And I think everybody knows that I have a very pro-woman message in my work - and in my life. "

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Kate Winslet

Actress

Winslet: "My feeling about why I like making films is you can come away from a film feeling so changed and touched. I really love that, the thought that I could be giving people a lot."

Anne Hathaway: "I love [Kate Winslet] so much. ... [Watching her I] realize how great she is and how far I have to go."

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Helena Bonham Carter

Actress, married to Tim Burton

Carter: "I enjoy those small chats you have when people come up and talk to you about your work. It only involves a few seconds of effort to be nice to those people, and I am very grateful for the kind words."

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Nigella Lawson

TV cook

Lawson: "It's always struck me how we express what we feel about each other through food. Food obviously plays a very big part in many world religions. I think even the most prosaic or fact-led person can't help but feel aware of the symbolic value of food."

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Jennifer Lawrence

Actress

Lawrence: "I'm incredibly stubborn ... but I am very maternal too."

Lawrence: "To [others my acting] looks emotionally straining, but I don't get emotionally drained, because I don't invest any of my real emotions."

Lawrence: "I always know when I'm being lied to. ... It's okay to lie sometimes and to exaggerate, but I always know when people are doing it, and then I feel differently about them [because of it]. I don't like that."

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Dakota Fanning

Actress, sister of Elle Fanning

Fanning: "The greatest trait in a person is to put other people before yourself."

Elle Fanning: "She's observant. She'll be out at a restaurant, and you see her looking around at all the people. When you come home, she'll be able to tell you what everyone was wearing, and she'll probably be able to imitate perfectly the person she was sitting next to."

Brittany Murphy: "Dakota is a ray of sunshine and obviously wise beyond her years. ... She is so intuitive of other people."

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Elle Fanning

Actress, sister of Dakota Fanning

Fanning: "Everyone is different in their own way, so people shouldn't try to make them feel bad because of that."

Vogue Magazine: "Whether registering joy, desolation, or utter confusion, she has an emotional transparency older actors might envy. ... Elle possesses a natural luminosity that goes straight to your heart."

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Emma Stone

Actress, dating Andrew Garfield

Stone: "My least favorite type of person is a 'selective asshole' - a person who's a jerk to some people and nice to other people."

Stone: "[Andrew Garfield is] an incredibly honest guy [and] a deeply feeling individual."

Taylor Swift: "If I could be anyone for a day, I'd be Emma Stone."

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Bono

Singer (U2) and humanitarian activist

Bono: "It's an amazing thing to think that ours is the first generation in history that really can end extreme poverty [but] we let our own pathetic excuses ... justify [us]. Be honest. We have the science, the technology, and the wealth. What we don't have is the will, and that's not a reason that history will accept."

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Zack de la Rocha

(Rage Against the Machine)

De la Rocha: "[When I] participated in [activism I] felt more community based. ... I was part of a collective voice and not on my own as an artist. Something about that attracted me."

De la Rocha: "Noam Chomsky is the most quoted intellectual alive today. His books have helped me understand the nature of globalization and its effect on people and societies throughout the world."

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James Lipton

Talk show host

Lipton: "That's the surprising thing - the number of people who have literally broken down on [my] stage, because when you're talking about the thing that is most important to someone, they're liable to feel something strong."

Anthony Hopkins: "James Lipton is the most penetrating and compassionate interviewer I've ever known."

Michelle Pfeiffer: "James creates such a warm environment that you feel as though you're among friends."

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Dr. Drew

Physician and talk show host

Dr. Drew: "I want to rescue everyone. ... I'd like everyone to be okay. I'd like to stop the suffering and discomfort in the world."

Dr. Drew: "The only way to get past ... feelings of powerlessness and insignificance is by connecting with other people. ... I advise you to look for opportunities to connect ... and to participate in life."

GQ Magazine: "[In person he is] charismatic ... theatrical, eloquent, and fervent."

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Adam Young

(Owl City)

Young: "My prayer is that the music of Owl City serves as ... a ray of hope in this ... world."

Young: "I hope you enjoy my art as much as I enjoyed creating it. If by chance you ever feel as though you've come to know these songs, please consider yourself a friend because in a manner of speaking, you know me."

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AnnaSophia Robb

Actress

[Asked what she liked about a character she played:]
Robb: "She has an understanding of human beings. She can kind of sense their sadness, sense that they need somebody, and [then be] that person."

Robb: "I hope [people] think about other people and how they can relate to them. I hope they think about how ... you have to be kind to [other people], talk to them and try to be friends."

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Drew Westen

Psychologist and author of 'The Political Brain'

Westen: "What Americans ... want [is] what the most successful presidents have offered them - a clear vision of a way forward that gives them hope, and a sense that he feels what they feel."

Westen: "In [debating] with Gore [in 2000], Bush made an emotional appeal that resonated with a significant sector of the population. The only response [from Gore] that could have countered its impact was an equally compelling emotionally appeal."

Bill Clinton: "[Westen's book] is the most interesting, informative book on politics I've read in many years. ... His suggestions for what candidates should say ... should be read and studied."

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Philip Zimbardo

Psychologist famous for the Stanford prison experiment

[Commenting on the Abu Ghraib prisoner abuse:]
Zimbardo: "Donald Rumsfeld came down there and he said, 'Who did this? Show me the bad apples!' That was the wrong question. He should have asked: 'What did this? Show me the bad barrel!'"

Zimbardo: "[I have a] love for classroom teaching."

Zimbardo: "It is imperative for all leaders to appreciate the psychological dynamics operating in situations they create."

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George Santayana

Philosopher

Santayana: "True amiability presupposes discernment, tact, a sense for what other people really feel and want."

Santayana: "The world is rather sharply divided for me into the people I like and the people I don't like. Philosophy and charity counsel me to correct this caprice ... but it persists in my inner feeling."

Santayana: "Platonism is a very refined and beautiful expression of our natural instincts."

William Holt: "He is [a] poet-philosopher who urges us to cultivate ... social felicity."

William Holt: "[His tone] can range from gentle amusement ... to preacherly denunciation."

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Tariq Ramadan

TV presenter and writer on Islam

Ramadan: "Never forget that the mind is not the only faculty helping you to understand. Your heart is understanding as well. So come with double vision."

Ramadan: "Intellect is the light, the heart is the direction."

Ramadan: "Humility is my table, respect is my garment, empathy is my food and curiosity is my drink. As for love, it has a thousand names and is by my side at every window."

Ramadan: "No one must ever let power or social, economic, or political interest turn him or her away from other human beings, from the attention they deserve and the respect they are entitled to."

Ramadan: "Behind every great man is not a woman, she is beside him, she is with him, not behind him."

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Stephen Jay Gould

Biologist and historian of science

Gould: "Skepticism [diminishes] irrationalism. [Skepticism] is therefore one of the keys to human social and civic decency."

Gould: " "I hope [that my work] will be one further step in the kind of humility that would benefit humans enormously with regard to our powers and possibilities on this planet."

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Harold Bloom

Literary critic and author

Bloom: "We cannot possibly know enough people or know them closely enough."

Bloom: "I can't bear to write when I'm by myself."

[When asked how he handled two professorships:]
Bloom: "I have a great deal of teaching energy."

Bloom: "I think that the United States has been almost destroyed by Ronald Reagan. He came into office ... and he assured us we could all emancipate our selfishness, and that [has] done terrible things to the poorer people in this country."

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Gilles Deleuze

Philosopher

Deleuze: "I personally always tried to do what I could for things to go well for people."

Deleuze [in a letter to a critic:] "Being kind isn't, it must be said, your strong point. If I ever stopped liking and admiring people, I'd feel dead, deadened. But you, you seem to have been born thoroughly bitter."

Deleuze: "Why can certain people live only in ... quarrel? They emerge from it as if it had been a bath of cool water for them."

Deleuze: "[When reading the history of philosophy] I concentrated on authors who challenged the rationalist tradition."

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Origen

Philosopher and theologian

Origen: "[In order to understand my talk you must] put off quarrelling, wrath, strife, anger and division of opinion so that there may not be any further schisms among you."

Origen: "[I give] long introductions to my talks. I [do so] in order to shape the message so that it heals the souls of my listeners."

Origen: "Let us take up eternal life. ... [We can do so] by stretching out our hands to others, to do good works, and to lay hold on the good life and deposit it in our soul."

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Helen Fisher

Writer on love and attraction and author of 'Why Him? Why Her?'

Fisher: "We've got these ten thousand years of [farming society] where women lost a great deal of their economic power ... and now women are moving back into the job market ... and we are seeing a return of the kind of woman we saw a million years ago expressing her sexuality, being more and more powerful [and] making all kinds of contributions."

Fisher: "I really like people. I get along with people."

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Rosalind Wiseman

Author of 'Queen Bees and Wannabes' which inspired Tina Fey's film 'Mean Girls'

Wiseman: "I believe every person has the responsibility to treat themselves and others with dignity."

Wiseman: "I loved seeing what [teaching high school girls self-defense] did to their self-confidence."

Wiseman: "Though ... I can be overwhelmed by the difficulties people share with me, I am tremendously grateful that I ... feel appreciated for my efforts."