Your Freudian Personality Style is:
Being inherently passive and acquiescent, you often feel tense at the prospect
of having responsibility placed on your shoulders and having to fend for yourself. Chances are that you resort
to biting your nails and smothering yourself in comfort foods (such as ice cream and milky beverages) in order
to relieve this tension. Inwardly, you are afraid that if you don't accommodate others and give in to their
wishes, they will get angry and withdraw from you, leaving you with no one in your corner to fend for you. This
prospect is inherently terrifying to you, because you feel that you cannot trust your own judgment or "make it
on your own." Hence, you worry a lot about pleasing people and obtaining their approval, internalizing their
ideas as your own and going to great lengths in order to avoid confrontation. Metaphorically, your personality
style may be described as an overweaned infant smothered in breast milk. Due to the overavailability of nurture
and care early in life, you learned that you could get by simply by passively sucking down the milk instead of
developing your own skills.
Cynical, demanding, and easily frustrated with others, you are proud, acerbic, and
independent to a fault. Delivering verbal stings and disparaging analyses of others wherever you go, your outer
image is one of cold and unapproachable aloofness. Little do others know, though, that while you are outwardly
cold and derisive, you secretly wish that someone would come into your life and pamper you. Metaphorically,
your personality style may be described as a neglected infant who was denied the essential nurture and care that
you needed. Deprived of comfort and security from the earliest age onward, you learned that the world was a
cynical place where independence and tough-mindedness were needed in order to thrive. Embittered with your parents'
failure to provide you with basic love and security in childhood, you developed a facility for 'biting' remarks.
One reason that you are so verbally aggressive is that you are frustrated with others, feeling that no one really
understands you. In trying to repair the lack of parental care and security that marked your childhood, you may
be attracted to cold partners who cannot meet your emotional needs in adulthood.
Being temperamentally careless and messy, your personal relationships are intense
but unstable. You also have a habit of shifting back and forth between over-idealizing and derogating the people
in your life. Restless and having a strong need for stimulation, you may sometimes act recklessly just to "keep
things feeling fresh," thereby exposing yourself and others to danger and hurt in the process. Your erratic emotional
life leads you to experience intense ups and downs and may cause you to confuse sex with intimacy as it all blurs
together in your mind-blowingly fast-paced life. Metaphorically, your personality style may be described as the toddler
who did not see the point of potty training and resisted it, instead defecating whenever he felt like it. Because you
never learned to reign in your urges in toddlerhood, you are incapable of moderating your search for adventure and
excitement in adulthood. Hence you may leap from project to project and partner to partner, always pining for
instant success instead of staying with a single prospect for the long haul and bringing it to success by "holding
it in" until fruition.
Seeking order and tidiness around you, you are set in your ways and most likely feel
that everything you do should be impeccable and above criticism. You are meticulous at your job, a hard worker, and
more competent at what you do than most. But your accomplishments come at a price: Inwardly you are beset by incessant
worrying and prone to punish yourself in your thoughts when you make a mistake. To avoid the dread of being in error,
you establish firm rules and fixed procedures that it takes considerable effort and persuasion to get you to deviate
from. Metaphorically, your personality style may be described as the toddler who over-internalized the demands of potty
training, striving to keep the fecal matter in, even after it was safe to 'let go.' As a result, the adult you is
penny-pinching and has a hard time parting with worn-out objects, even after they should have been discarded. In social
situations you likewise have trouble 'letting loose' and come across as disciplined, constricted, and a bit reserved.
Vain, aggressive, and self-centered, you are preoccupied with matters of power and
dominance. Metaphorically, your personality style may be described as the five-year-old who discovered that his
genitals were able to provide him with a sense of pleasure, and who was immensely proud to have made this discovery.
Flaunting his genitals to the world and believing himself to be special because of them, the five-year-old you
did not learn to associate achievement with effort, thinking instead that achievement was something that followed
passively from one's intrinsic magnificence. As a result, the adult you has an easy time convincing himself that
he is superior to others and often feels entitled to special treatment, even though you may have developed little
in the way of actual skills to act as a foundation for your affected superiority.
Additionally, the five-year-old
you mistook the pleasurable sensations that his genitals were able to provide for the very reason for having
genitals, knowing nothing about their wider reproductive purposes. In the same way, the adult you is often confused
with regards to his own thoughts and motivations, steering mindlessly towards praise and gratification, while ignoring
the wider questions of fairness and reciprocity. Since in your mind, success depends on intrinsic magnificence,
and not on conscious effort, you are wont to believe that any criticism of you, or denial of gratification that
you feel entitled to, is really is a denial of your intrinsic worth and a mean-spirited attempt to take it away -
a castration attempt, as it were. Hence, the adult you tends to lose all sense of proportion when criticized,
overreacting and responding in full force to even the mildest of criticisms.
Self-controlled, sober, and seemingly mild-mannered, you have great facility with
analytical arguments, which you use as a double-edged sword, pointing them as much at yourself as you do at others.
Socially, you are a bit impassive and vacuous, and you may attach yourself to someone (such as a significant other
or female parent) whom you perceive to be better at social interaction and 'all the emotional stuff' than you are,
thus neglecting the development of yourself in that area. Metaphorically, your personality style may be likened to
a five-year-old who is aware that he is not the favorite child in the family but at the same time wishes that he
were. As a result of this envy, you have developed a compensative attitude where you dismantle the dominance of
others by analytically picking apart their activities, laying bare their weaknesses and exposing the special treatment
that they have received and the double standards they live by. However, while it may seem like you are just being
equitable and even-handed, your true motivations are nevertheless personal envy and a longing to compensate for your
frustrated need to dominate. One proof of these ignoble motives that underlie your seemingly noble actions is that
you sometimes go overboard in your exposition when exposing the flaws of someone whom you perceive to be 'mightier'
than you, and that when doing so you can even become a bit moralistic and persecuting, in marked contradistinction
to your usual easygoing self.
Having a strong need for attention and affection, you are not one to sit idly by,
hoping that these things will come to you of their own accord. Instead you actively crave center stage and seek
the notice of those around you through a series of attention-grabbing behaviors such as dramatized emotions,
sexualized conduct and clothing, witty and eccentric manners, and so on. Notoriously fickle and flighty, you often
find yourself chasing the latest colorful image that has presented itself to your imagination instead of working out
the implications of a topic in detail. (By the time someone engages you on the nitty-gritty, you have already moved
on to another topic.) Metaphorically, your personality style may be likened to a teenage girl whose uterus is
twisting and turning, first to the one side, then to the other, causing emotional turmoil as it craves impregnation
from the outside while at the same time resisting any definite commitment to it. In the same way, your actual
personality is both sexually flirtatious and expressively overdramatic as a means of capturing people's attention.
While your spontaneous amiability may sometimes lead people to think that you are either propositioning them or their
new best friend, the reality is that for you, these enticing behaviors are not necessarily meant as
anything but ways of getting them to notice you and care.
Polite, gentle, and unusually placid, you have comparatively little interest in
interpersonal relationships with others and can be alone for long periods of time without feeling lonely. Having
from an early age found that your own perceptions were at odds with those of others, you have retreated into an
internal world of imagination and private perceptions. When others come into contact with you, they tend to perceive
you as having an asexual presentation, often with stiff and affectively constricted, child-like manners (which may
themselves come across as attractive, encouraging fantasies of domination in others). Metaphorically, your personality
style may be likened to a teenage girl whose uterus is so afraid of impregnation that it shuts off every mating
signal that the individual is able to produce, including charm and emotional presence. In the same way, the actual
you may have marked difficulties with gender roles, giving others the psychological (though not necessarily physical)
impression of an oddly a-gendered individual or prepubescent child. Like the teenage girl whose uterus contracted to
shut off its activities entirely, others tend to experience you as having little positive or negative emotionality,
but only a certain 'flatness,' attesting again to the fact that you come across as having 'retired' a bit into yourself.
Apparently detached and somewhat indifferent to socializing and interpersonal affairs, little do others know, however,
that because you do not hinge your thoughts and feelings on accepted social mores, you are actually capable of great
creativity and originality when left to your own devices.
No Marked Freudian Personality Style
We all have our problems to grapple with, but you appear to be untroubled by the
negative elements of the Freudian personality styles. Your scores indicate that you do not have a strongly pronounced
Freudian personality style. To you, a cigar is truly just a cigar.
Multiple Freudian Personality Styles
Oh dear, oh dear. You appear to have multiple, equally prominent Freudian personality
styles. We are unable to say which of your styles is dominant, and therefore also incapable of giving you a more
personalized description. With you, even Freud himself could 'slip.'